Lesson Summary

Learning about relationships is crucial for personal growth and the quality of our relationships. Here are five key reasons why we all need to invest in understanding relationship dynamics:

• You don't know what you don’t know: Many of us have been taught wrong behaviors or had poor examples set by our parents.
• You can influence your relationship daily: By acquiring essential relationship skills, irrespective of age, gender, intelligence, or education.
• Learning from mistakes: Failing to learn from past relationship errors will likely result in repeating them in future relationships, whereas applying lessons learned can make an immediate positive impact.
• Life lessons in relationships: Relationships offer unique opportunities to heal, build trust, forge deep connections, and experience unconditional love.
• Avoid seeking the ideal partner: Believing in an 'ideal partner' myth can lead to dissatisfaction. Instead, focus on personal growth and improvement within a relationship.

It is important to understand that if you and your partner fundamentally differ on essential life aspects, building a successful relationship may be challenging. The same applies to dealing with abusive partners. Acknowledging the need for continuous self-improvement and seeking guidance or coaching for relationship insights can significantly enhance personal development and relationship satisfaction.

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Here we present five reasons why we all have to learn about relationships. There are many more, but these are common ones. We subscribe to teachings for about everything in life….. except for the most valuable one for which we need to learn life essentials.

Reason no 1: You dont know what you don’t know -  Some of the things we were taught are wrong and many of us had the wrong examples from our parents.

Reason no 2: You CAN influence the level of your relationship on a daily basis. - By learning essential relationship skills that everybody can learn despite age, gender, intelligence or education.

Reason no 3: You will repeat your mistakes in the next relationship if you don’t learn them now. - However if you do, you will create a difference from the moment you apply them.

Reason 4: There are life lessons in a relationship most people are not aware of. -  It’s the only place in life where you can heal your heart while building trust, a deep connection and profound unconditional love.

Reason no 5: Do not look for the ideal partner, it is a hoax and puts you on the wrong track for happiness. - For almost all of us the quality of the relationship becomes less after some time. Then it’s easy to think you will be better off with somebody else. 

If you believe this to be true – and not looking at your own improvements – than you will encounter the same problems after the infatuation has gone with your next partner 

Now let me be clear that if you and your partner have opposite standpoints on essential life areas, there is no common ground to build on. The same goes for instance for abusive partners.

Key Lesson Concepts:

• We tend to think relationships develop by themselves because two people match.
• We go for trainings on everything to improve our skills…. except when it comes to relationships.  
• You don’t go to a psychologist to improve your driving skills unless you are afraid of driving……you get a coach who teaches you important lessons.
• The willingness to look at your own skills is crucial for personal development and the quality of your relationship.